When you need a little reassurance, try this
Affirmations don’t need to completely change your life to be useful. Sometimes hearing the right words at the right time can help you feel more confident, reassured and capable.
What would make you feel more alive?
Life can easily become about work, responsibilities and looking after everyone else. Making room for things that excite and energise you can help put some of you back into it.
Start with believing you can and see what happens
What you believe about yourself changes what you’re willing to try. Sometimes the first step is simply stopping yourself from deciding you can’t before you’ve even found out.
Change can be scary. Staying stuck could be worse.
We worry so much about making the wrong change that we rarely ask what staying exactly where we are might cost us.
You know why you do it. So why is it so hard to stop?
You can understand your anxious behaviour, recognise the patterns and know where they came from, but still find yourself reacting in the same way. Sometimes understanding the problem is only the first step towards changing how it feels.
How much of your worth is tied to what other people think?
Low self-worth doesn’t always look like a lack of confidence. Sometimes it shows up in how much weight you give to other people’s opinions, approval and expectations, and how little you give to your own.
Stop living in yesterday and tomorrow
When your mind is stuck in the past or racing into the future, it’s easy to miss what’s happening now. A simple sensory exercise can help bring you back.
Stop apologising for things nobody said were wrong
Ever replayed a conversation and worried you came across badly? Before you apologise or explain yourself, it might be worth asking whether anything actually went wrong.
How much time are you spending solving imaginary problems?
Worrying can feel like you’re preparing for what might happen. But sometimes you’re just trying to solve a problem that doesn’t exist yet.
The beliefs you have about yourself might be filtering what you see
Once we believe something about ourselves, we can become very good at noticing the evidence that supports it. The problem is, we might be overlooking everything that tells a different story.
Rejection hurts, but the story you add can hurt more
Rejection can hurt for reasons that go far beyond the event itself. Sometimes the real sting comes from what we start believing it says about us, even if it's not true.
Why you might feel unfulfilled even when life looks good
You can have a life that looks good on paper and still feel like something is missing. Sometimes the real question is whether the life you’re living still feels right for you.
What are you afraid will happen if you let something drop?
Feeling overwhelmed isn’t always just about having too much to do. Sometimes it’s also about what we believe we should be able to keep up with.
Want more confidence? Stop waiting for it
Waiting to feel confident can keep you stuck. Confidence usually comes after you act - when you prove to yourself that you can actually handle it.